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Hubby's Getting a Raise; Should I Quit My Job?

At the behest of his wife, my husband has been pursuing a different employer as his current position, while solid and benefit laden, offers no room for advancement and little job satisfaction. It is one of those jobs that his father’s generation would have envied. In fact, his father is pretty incensed that he would like to leave. Problem is, my hubby hates it and he’ll be there a million years before he ever gets a promotion because no one leaves. It’s a graveyard and he knows it.

He is meeting this week with a new employer and the HR department to discuss salary for his new position. This could be a really nice increase, a chance to work at a world-renowned hospital and opportunities to do the kind of work he has been wanting to get into. This, of course, is what I wanted for him. I am thrilled that he has this opportunity and especially more money, to be honest.

His brainstorming over dinner took me by surprise. He excitedly guessed at what he would likely be offered, what they would say and when he would start. Of course, I hope all of his guesswork becomes reality… except for one.

My husband said that if he gets the salary offer he expects, I wouldn’t need to work full-time. Uh, did I say I wanted to give up my career entirely?! Wasn’t it him that up until recently said, “Britt, you know you are not the kind of person to be relegated to the barracks every day”. He balked when I wanted to stay home after I had my daughter two years ago. In fact, we even had some pretty heated arguments about it. I reluctantly went back to the office after my daughter’s birth. Now, I enjoy my work and the brain exercise I get there every day. Getting dressed for the office does have its feel-good perks as well.

I had only days ago mentioned to him the idea that I had of offering my consulting skills to my current employer on a part-time basis. I thought if I could offer them my skills part-time and also secure other part-time work with other locations, I would have exactly what I wanted: Full-time pay and the flexibility to work from home and have the say on how, where and when I worked. I thought it sounded great! Now, the idea is talked down to.

Well, this dinosaur is just not ready for the bone-yard. I know that I can do rewarding work, balance my life with my family and earn an income and it doesn’t mean waiting tables unless I want to. I resent the idea that I have to either pursue a full-time career at a full-time job with no flexibility or work at the local diner. I think taking your talents and turning them into “be your own boss” money-making is genius and I know lots of women who do it.

Does it always have to be a choice?

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