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10 Things I'd Love to Tell My Younger Self
Vibrant Nation | DivineCaroline
June 01, 2009
I’ve learned some valuable things about life, love, and being female over the past half-century. Here is the advice I try to pass on to younger women in my life (family and friends) in the hope that it will save them some precious time:
1. You are at least 10 times prettier than you think you are.
That holds true no matter how pretty you already think you are! Don’t believe me? Ask your mother, auntie or grannie if she thought she was pretty when she was 20. She’ll say no. Then find a photo of her at that age. See what I mean?
2. The only thing you should be faking is confidence.
If you don’t have it yet, pretend you do. In every new situation, pretend you’re not nervous, pretend you’re not afraid. After a few times doing this, the pretend part disappears.
3. Want to try something new like painting, skiing, running your own business? Go to the library and borrow 10 different books on the subject.
Skim through them all, find the ones that have the most vital information and study them. Then see number two.
4. No matter how old you get, remember what it was like to be a nine-year old girl.
Remember the feeling of freedom. If you’ve already forgotten, do a cartwheel. You can so still do one. Savor that feeling. Wake up with it every day. You’ll stay young until the day you die.
5. In the same vein, flowers — freshly cut or potted — are never a waste of money.
Because every time we glance at them, they remind us how much beauty there can be in the world.
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avande1882
about 2 years ago
4 comments
I LOVE Number 8...its very similar to a great saying by Maya Angelou.."When someone shows you who they really are the first time..BELIEVE THEM."
ginna
over 2 years ago
2 comments
Great thoughts! I sent it to my 24 year old daughter to read.
changinglifestyles
over 2 years ago
2958 comments
I absolutely love this article! It is very important for us to view our lives this way. The sooner, the better. Thank you so much for sharing!
LizzJ79
over 2 years ago
116 comments
This is great. I think I am going to start a journal for my daughter for when she turns 13- in 2years. Of things I would say if I was her age again . . . . .
annecowan
almost 3 years ago
2 comments
this was excellent. It's very rare that you read such a fresh and wise perspective on Life.
fatimah
almost 3 years ago
88 comments
Oh this is a wonderful article..thanks for sharing. :)
jennyt
almost 3 years ago
14 comments
This is a wonderful article!! I think we all know these things deep down, but they get so deep down we forget about them! I printed this article and it will hang above my desk so I can refresh my thinking everyday!!
Nutan
almost 3 years ago
2 comments
Thanks! I needed it very badly. Would you mind if I translate this in Marathi (Maharashtra state language in India) for my Marathi speaking women? Those who can't read or understnad English, do need this too. I want to share it with them.
verosam
almost 3 years ago
58 comments
Thanks for this article !
songwriter
almost 3 years ago
78 comments
. . . I would put eating healthy (whole grains, fruits, and veggies) as number one, and brushing at least twice a day and flossing at least once a day as number two, rather than putting them further down the list. Not taking care of your health, including your teeth, will only cause problems later in life. I am still paying for the cavities I accumulated when I was only eight years old, and I am still struggling to get rid of fat I accumulated from eating extremely unhealthy food as a kid. Which comes full circle to your number one on the list-- you are prettier than you think you are-- if you are unhealthy, you will definitely feel less pretty and feel less happy-- so I just do not think feeling pretty should be listed as number one because being healthy is infinitely more important-- being pretty is too subjective and your perception of it is usually based on other people's opinions also, whereas when you are healthy, you can feel the difference.
By the way, I am glad that you added the part about the feeling you get in your stomach when something is wrong-- your brain often lies, but your stomach or "gut" is usually telling the truth, although this should not be confused with real stomach aches (the ones that are not caused by viruses). The hard part is being able to get out of bad situations safely and being able to defend yourself properly when someone else hurts you or puts you down.
As for the sunscreen, I am opposed to most of the toxic sunscreens that have synthetic ingredients, although there are more natural or organic alternatives. The easiest and most effective thing to do is to make sure you are not out in the sun during the hottest times of the day-- it is much better to wait until around five in the afternoon.
Most importantly, simple advice like the above should be passed from parents to their children to keep them from making the same mistakes-- most mistakes can be prevented that way (cause and effect), in spite of the fact that people tend to want to learn the hard way on their own.
Nishbel
almost 3 years ago
24 comments
In life there are so many things to learn, but aren't we thankful that we exist and have our being to carry out the task assigned to us? I am personally thankful for this article , it awakened my goals in life to live happy with contentment by valuing the beautiful things around us that we most of the time taken for granted.
Nishbel
almost 3 years ago
24 comments
I am blessed reading this article. I am a simple young lady too who sometimes look down on myself. But now I want to boost up my confidence, knowing that later on it will turn out to be courage to conquer all the giants of fear, insecurity etc...By God's grace I can keep growing in all aspects of life
yesol
almost 3 years ago
2 comments
Wonderful article!
It reminds me of the things I've forgotten.
Particularly No.5.
Thanks a lot!! ^^
dalesalvo
almost 3 years ago
2 comments
I love this!!! Thank you so much!! It's great!!
sbcarter
almost 3 years ago
15584 comments
Excellent advice. Thanks for sharing it!