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The 4 Major Break-Up Warning Signs

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Jay Cataldo is a New York City-based life coach and relationship coach who passionately helps his clients break free of their limitations and design the life they were meant to live. He is also considered a “breakup expert” and has authored a highly acclaimed book on the subject. After years of coaching, Jay has come to understand what women need to have in their lives in order to feel truly empowered and fulfilled. Armed with this knowledge, he decided to bring together a team of intelligent, successful female mentors to create DefinitiveDiva.com — a multifaceted resource which gives today's modern woman the advice and support she needs to create the lifestyle she deserves. Be sure to connect with Jay on Excelle and in his relationship advice forum!

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Getting dumped sucks… there’s no doubt about it. There aren’t many things more heart-wrenching than finding out that the person you love thinks he will be better off without you. But this news can really make your guts fall on the floor when it comes completely out of left field.

If an “out-of-the-blue breakup” has happened to you in the past, I don’t have to remind you of how much it hurts. But the good news is that I can show you how to make sure it never happens again. Keep reading…

You see, the tell-tale signs of an inevitable breakup will always be there if you know what to look for. And while there are many indicators that point to minor relationship problems, we’re going to be looking at the big four which indicate that a breakup is very likely to happen in the near future.

Once you notice these signs, you can make the decision to address your issues before it’s too late, or you can turn the tables and end the relationship first, on your terms.

Breakup Warning Sign #1: Your partner starts distancing himself either physically or emotionally

The first red flag is any kind of distancing behavior, either physical or emotional. “Physical distancing” occurs when your partner seems to be making less and less time for you. All of a sudden, he may seem to be avoiding the typical “couple” activities you’re used to doing together, such as watching American Idol, walking the dog, etc.

“Emotional distancing” is a more subtle, but much stronger indicator that things are heading south in your relationship. Have you noticed any changes in the way that your partner communicates with you, such as a lack of eye contact or a different voice tone? Have you noticed that most of your conversations are now boring and trivial? Does he avoid discussing future plans for the two of you? These are all good signs that your partner’s emotional investment in the relationship is starting to rapidly deteriorate.