Excelle

You can excel in some things, while in others you will struggle through. I think balance originates in decision making. If you decide you want to be master of everything, you will be leader of none. If you want to live a balanced life, you must give everything of importance in your life your divided attention. Whether or not you have a prestigious career, and the duties of a mother, or are unemployed and single , balance is difficult to obtain.

Great article Sherrie...Thanks

Well Done, my friend! Well Done!

Dr. Sherrie,
You are so on point with your article! True balance in today's world for a woman includes all that you said and then you have to try to be the sexy partner that your partners wants! You hit all of the right points that women need to hear...love yourself, lighten up on yourself and don't take it personally if you don't meet up to someone else's expectations. All that matters is that your own personal life is balanced with work, joy,love and health. Give it all that you can and feel good about it. Every day is a challenge. I look at every day as a new adventure! It puts the day in a different perspective where you can throw anything at me and I have the choice to respond or to react. I choose to respond because it allows me to keep my cool and deal with the situation. Prioritize your work and chores and schedule in fun time..it is a must do! Thank you for your insite!

Thank you for the great article and sharing...
Yup, Balance is self-defined... Living at the every moment and love what you do and try your best at every moment, then it is done, don't think too much for it...

Hello, Dr. Sherrie Bourg Carter!
It is a serious topic! Eating, drinking are things that make life of all people more full, espeasually in stress. But it isn't so. People try to eat and drink their stress. I think that positive thinking and ability to look inside myself and to decide some problems are the main things that help us to be in balance and harmony)

Well Hello Dr. Carter. I must say, you are special to me. As i read the article you shared so kind and concerned. I had to think for a few minutes about how hard I had worked for my last job. I traveled up and down Northern California either by car or plane to present motivational workshops to teen parents, addicted parents and grandparents about how to teach our children in a positive indian parenting way. I had eight session to present and expect them to get it, use it, and keep our culture alive. That was just one of my workshops. I was expected to travel, travel, create, create, and then present. This was unrealistic to me when I got hired, but I enjoy working with building a balance for those that were not taught to care for mind, body and spiritual self... At the same time, I am so burned out, stressed out, overwhelmed over the questions that were craving answers I could not answer. Thank God, I reflected back to the group to share some of their old ways that were taught by there ancesters. This is when i would take that moment to enjoy a break as I too learned. This action went on for 1/2 a year straight. Then a call comes to add more stress. My fiance had cancer. I fell to the floor of my office and cried not now!, not after we just got his baggage fixed and now more giving to give. I started falling apart real quick. No energy drink or church could fix this devastating news. I was a high achiever at all my jobs, a perfectionist like you mention, a leader of the pack way back in the day. I took on the everything and kept everything cool and calm. But that day I gave up on motivating anyone, I needed the workshop this time. but instead I had to put work aside and dig into finding out how we were going to pay for this. I had insurance, he did not. He was private pay and boy did we pay. I became the high achiever once again. He was not alone. I rounded up his family and they relieved me of my duties as a to do list lifestyle for others, but poor me. I put my love first. Today, I am proudly unemployed, back to college, and capable of being more, and more aware of my needs first. I took a womens health class and learned that the trust that i have in myself for myself was not active. I can say that I have come a long and widing road of self inflicted stress. I walk, dance, watch my favorite movie over and over when I want and I feel cared about. My tire on that balance wheel is rolling even. I now can communicate with my fiance without fear of not being heard. Once again I want to thank you for that realistic article for all people. Men need to hear this also. Thank You Dr. carter.

What a great article! I'm glad this was pointed out to me, for I am one of "those" striving women, who knows she can and has to do it all! Having a family, although grown, now it's grandkids living at home with Mom, however it is still draining, along with trying to run my Real Esate Business and to come out STRONG in this market we are experiencing across our great nation! Now is the time to dig in and take the bull by the horns so to speak and align ourselves to come out on top when our market turns!