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Julie D. Andrews | Your Tango
October 02, 2009
Every time she hung out with her single female friends, the same gripes surfaced.
Enough already with the how-to-snag-a-guy advice streaming from anyone and everyone as soon as status single was announced, they said.
Suddenly, Karin Anderson, Ph.D., assistant professor of psychology at Concordia University Chicago, found herself keeping track of what these single women were saying, replacing the strict academic research techniques she was used to with more informal polling.
What she found was a deluge of well-meaning advice being issued to singles that while offered with the best of intentions, not only wasn’t working but was making singles’ skin crawl.
“The message to singles tends to be that they’re doing something wrong, ’You’re too this’ or ’You’re not enough that.’ Being single is treated as this problem that needs to be solved,” says Anderson. “That’s really bogus. We should be telling single women, ’You’re fine. There’s nothing wrong. Enjoy your life.’”
These five snippets of well-meaning advice to singles top Anderson’s list of worst offenses. Here’s why:
