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The Strength to Walk Away from Confrontation

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Kelly Rudolph

Kelly Rudolph has been “Your Personal Safety Trainer” and CEO of SURVIVE! Self-Defense LLC since 1999. She has trained thousands of men, women, teens and children how to avoid verbal, mental, emotional and physical attack and appeared on National TV with John Walsh of “America’s Most Wanted.” She wrote and published four safety books and knows that safety has much more to do with self-esteem than self-defense. This inspired Kelly to create PositiveWomenRock.com; a women’s membership website which promotes positive outlook and attitude, resulting in happier, safer, more empowered lives. Visit PositiveWomenRock.com for your audio gift and positive information.

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Most people view walking away from a confrontation or challenge as weak, but positive women know walking away is a sign of strength. Whether you are — already or about to — be involved in a bad situation, argument, or other confrontation, it’s important to know you have options that maintain your integrity and come from strength rather than weakness.

The ego is a terrible thing to be ruled by. Our egos often keep us in situations we should steer clear of. It forces us to stand our ground and prove our point. Obviously, standing our ground is important when it comes to respect and personal boundaries. And proving our point can be positive and often necessary. But staying when it is best to walk away is weak and all about ego

How you execute the “walk away” depends on the situation. Here are some examples: You can tell your angry teen you are willing to discuss the rules in an hour after you both have had some time to cool off and quietly walk away but you may want to avoid saying the same to your boss.

• If someone you are in a relationship with is speaking to you disrespectfully, you may simply hold your hand up like a stop sign and turn and quietly walk away. However, if a person is very angry and attempting to engage you in an argument, you need to walk away while keeping an eye on them because they may get angrier when you refuse to play their game.

• Maybe you are at a party and the drinking gets out of hand. It would be great to influence those involved to be responsible and more careful but in their current state, quietly hiding their keys and exiting may be a better plan.

• If your supervisor is speaking disrespectfully to or about you, walking away may mean quietly protecting yourself emotionally until you can find someone better to work for.

• If you are belittling or criticizing yourself, it is your responsibility to walk away from those thoughts immediately and practice gratitude instead.

• The reason it takes a strong woman to walk away is the same reason most don’t – ego, pride and concern about what other people will think or say. Once you realize the power game that arguing, belittling and confrontation is, you immediately possess the power to win and just knowing you have that power reduces the need to use it. There is no honor in winning an unnecessary fight.

Stand your ground and prove your point when necessary and learn to recognize when to walk away. You will be more positive and powerful with each good choice.

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