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5 Qualities of Good Female Friends
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Kelly Rudolph
Kelly Rudolph has been “Your Personal Safety Trainer” and CEO of SURVIVE! Self-Defense LLC since 1999. She has trained thousands of men, women, teens and children how to avoid verbal, mental, emotional and physical attack and appeared on National TV with John Walsh of “America’s Most Wanted.” She wrote and published four safety books and knows that safety has much more to do with self-esteem than self-defense. This inspired Kelly to create PositiveWomenRock.com; a women’s membership website which promotes positive outlook and attitude, resulting in happier, safer, more empowered lives. Visit PositiveWomenRock.com for your audio gift and positive information.
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Kelly Rudolph | Excelle
November 13, 2009
Why are you a good, empowering friend to other women? What do you bring to the table?
We all have our specific qualities and in a friendship, we must to have something that benefits the other person if we are to be of value. What is it that you provide? Dependability? An ear to listen? Good advice? Positive feedback?
Or do you commiserate with your female friends? Do you jump into the gossip rut or complaining trap or do you empower and boost women and cheer them on?
If you find you’re not a positive influence on your friends, you can easily develop some skills to be more so. Keep in mind, if you have negative friends and you become more positive, they may take a while to catch on to the new, more positive you or may choose to leave the friendship.
Women who gain attention by always complaining are unlikely to warm up to a positive-minded person. After all, being positive means taking responsibility for your choices, situation and life and this is completely opposite of what negative people do.
Five great qualities to bring to the friendship table:
• Dependability – Dependability is underrated. If you are a dependable friend with personal boundaries, you are priceless. Without personal boundaries, many dependable friends get taken advantage of.
• Respect – Respect is earned, not aged into. If you respect your friends and what they stand for and it is mutual, your bonds will be stronger and more long lasting than others.
• Positive Feedback – A realistic positive outlook and encouragement are two of the most powerful things you can give a friend in crisis.
• Alternate Perspective – Looking at a situation from a different perspective is crucial to making good decisions. Helping a friend to do this is admirable.
• Honesty – Honesty is not synonymous with agreement. Tough love is sometimes necessary in friendships and is appreciated by true friends.
Think about your women friends and determine how many of them possess the above skills. You may be a catalyst to empower them all or feel the need to seek out new friends who are more inclined to match your friendship skill set.
To be more positive, empowered, successful, and have greater peace of mind, I invite you to visit PositiveWomenRock where you will receive audio and pdf versions of “Why Positive Women Excel at Everything They Do” and invitations to TeleWomenars – empowering conversations for women.
changinglifestyles
2 months ago
2948 comments
These are necessary traits to bring to any friendship.
mekaro
2 months ago
4 comments
none of the above, sadly. For some reason, it is difficult to find all these in one person.