Print

Your Life >> Browse Articles >> Sex + Relationships

Rate

Why He Didn't Ask You On a Second Date

Why He Didn't Ask You On a Second Date

Marni Battista | Divine Caroline

January 28, 2011

In my work with male clients, it still surprises me when I hear the array of horrific dating don’ts that are innocently committed by the most beautiful, educated and seemingly “perfect” women.

The results are tragic, and I feel quite confident that most of these women have no idea why they are not being asked on date number two, or are ultimately not pursued after the red flags are hoisted, flown and dominate the country of potential relationship. What’s most important for you to know is that while you may say you would “never “ do these things, there are a host of small, minute “errors” that send men running for the hills in their Nikes.

What follows are my top three unconscious dating mistakes made by some of the most beautiful, smart and “together” women who walk unwittingly through the dating jungle:

1. The Medical “Overshare”

It may seem so innocent to share your medical history on a date, especially when the conversation merely started over your choice to say “no” to the gourmet macaroni and cheese your date offers you over the dinner table. However, it is not in your best interest to share your genetic disposition to high cholesterol, pull out the herbal tea you are drinking to cope with menstrual cramps, or even mention your brief experimentation with anti-anxiety medication to get through the recent death of the grandmother who practically raised you that is the reason you keep yawning over dessert.

While these facts do not indicate whether or not your values may match the man with whom you are having these conversations, the truth is that because he asked you out and chose to spend time with you, he may hear these conversational tidbits and fleetingly wonder if your children would have high cholesterol or be prone to anxiety. Although I urge both men and women to simply enjoy a date without the pressure of “is this the one’ mentality and have a “human experience,” it is natural and normal for a man (or woman) to raise an ear to a piece of information that could be a potential red flag.

Quite simply, don’t share any medical information on a first, second, or even third date. Save this information for later, when he is beginning to dig you, starts to miss you between dates, and thinks you are positively adorable. Then, when the “ugly warts” start to slowly be revealed, he will be able to put it in context of who you TRULY are.

Next Page: The “Get Home Safe” Text →



Divinecaroline-logo_max200w

Featured Author: DivineCaroline
At DivineCaroline, you’ll be spending time with women who embrace the fact that life isn’t always easy or beautiful or fair. Our dream is to give you a place to come together to express yourselves. What brings you joy. What breaks your heart. Makes you giggle. What pisses you off. Confuses you. Entertains you. What keeps you strong. Check them out here!


Excelle School Finder

Save time in your search for a degree program. Use Excelle's School Finder to locate schools online and in your area.


* In the event that we cannot find a program from one of our partner schools that matches your specific area of interest, we may show schools with similar or unrelated programs.

Recent Activity

Photo_user_blank_big
Ldam222 received the quiz result of "ESTJ", almost 2 years ago.
Photo_user_blank_big
mlzrvc received the quiz result of "ISTJ", almost 2 years ago.
Photo_user_blank_big
schucb received the quiz result of "ESTJ", almost 2 years ago.
Photo_user_blank_big
dkk_florida received the quiz result of "ESFJ", almost 2 years ago.
Photo_user_blank_big
lexcelle received the quiz result of "Seattle", almost 2 years ago.
Photo_user_blank_big
Burntnana received the quiz result of "You Kind of Love your job", almost 2 years ago.
Photo_user_blank_big
Burntnana received the quiz result of "Healthy Person", almost 2 years ago.
Photo_user_blank_big
Burntnana received the quiz result of "<b>You Just Need a Vacation</b>", almost 2 years ago.
Apples-635240_1280_max30
Margaritta commented on: "Margaret Jefferson", almost 2 years ago.