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10 Easy Ways to Get Your Man to Commit

10 Easy Ways to Get Your Man to Commit


February 28, 2011

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At first, dating expert Rori Raye’s ideas about how to get a man to commit seemed counter-intuitive: Don’t be his girlfriend? Don’t try to win him over? But then we realized this: Rori wants us to get a man to commit by being our most authentic selves, which, in turn, allows men to be their most authentic selves. And that makes a lot of sense.

These tips are only the beginning. If you want more of Rori’s wisdom check out her blog and newsletter, Have The Relationship You Want, where she goes into much more detail.

1. Love him, but don’t be his girlfriend.

Being his girlfriend means being exclusive with out a “forever” promise. If you want to get married, don’t be his girlfriend. A man might tell you that he needs time to decide if you’re right for him, but according to Rori men know very soon whether or not you’re the One.

2. Don’t be exclusive until you’re engaged.

Once you’ve become exclusive and have your eye on marriage, a man can sense that you’re thinking about the relationship, wondering where things are going, hoping he loves you as much as you love him—all of which are totally normal feelings, but they make men withdraw emotionally, says Rori. Not being exclusive gives you room to breath, relax and really figure out if this is the relationship for you, which allows him to fall for you without worrying that you’re overly invested in him.

3. Date more than one man at once.

The corollary to not being exclusive is dating more than one guy at a time. That way you can compare men to each other, you don’t feel urgent about one particular man, and you’re able to be open to new opportunities. Of course, if he’s ready to commit and marry you then by all means, be exclusive—but not until he’s ready to really commit.

4. Be able to receive love.

If a man doesn’t think you’re able to be loved, he won’t be able to commit. You need to show him that you can handle his emotions and believe that he loves you.

5. Don’t try to win him over.

Don’t make him dinner every night, clean his place for him and come over as soon as he says he has the flu. That will put you in the mother or friend category.

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