Excelle

Look but don't touch! Some guys drool when they see an attractive woman; others glance. Maybe it has to do with a guy's level of maturity or lack thereof. The availability of online porn and "girlie" magazines overstimulate some guys and feed their insecurity. I bet that a lot of the droolers would not have the nerve to interact with a woman he saw on the street.  I agree with Kat; gawking would make me uncomfortable but, I think it is considered a natural reaction by many guys.

Men are born hunters. Even some of  those men who are involved in commited relationship, finds it intriguing to lure other women into their web of deceit. 

AngelaK says ...

It's human nature to look at something you consider beautiful. I'm not above it believe me! But there is such a thing as being discreet and having respect for the one you are with. I have no problem with a glance but if my husband gawked and turned his head back looking at another woman while he was walking with me, I'd kick him.

I agree "gawking" and looking are 2 different things! Besides I know who my man is coming home and making love to!

My husband looks all the time. Most of the time I look with him....LOL. Just recently, I was walking on the streets of New York with my husband when I spotted a girl wearing a skirt talking on her cell phone. She was walking on a subway grating just when the train was passing by. Her skirt when up and I was the only one looking. I pulled my husband's arm to grab his attention and pointed at the girl. We both ducked at the same timeto look under her skirt.... It was a nice bonding moment.

Couldn't tell ya but I'm often gawking at the same woman. hehe

I am soooooooooo glad I don't have to worry about that anymore!! My fiance is all about respect - we went through a relationship with someone who disrespected him and cheated on him and he would never, ever do that - when we are out together, I am the only woman in the room according to him! My ex-husband on the other hand was a gawker - hence why we are divorced!!!

Will says ...

All men look.  If you don't notice it, then they are better at hiding it than others.

Divorced over gawking?  Really?!

I didn't mean that is why we got divorced, there is a whole list of way worse circumstances that lead to that, but that was one of my pet peeves with him!!

There is a big difference between "looking" and "gawking". Everyone "looks" - I mean, come on ladies, we do it too!! But "gawking" is when "looking" becomes more than "looking" - some men are very disrespectful and go too far!!

AnnEvanston says ...

AngelaK says ...

It's human nature to look at something you consider beautiful. I'm not above it believe me! But there is such a thing as being discreet and having respect for the one you are with. I have no problem with a glance but if my husband gawked and turned his head back looking at another woman while he was walking with me, I'd kick him.

I agree "gawking" and looking are 2 different things! Besides I know who my man is coming home and making love to!

My husband glances from time to time, but he does not gawk.  I normally don't notice but he has gotten in the habit of telling my by saying "I just lost my Klondike bar".  How can I get mad.  I know he loves me and would never cheat on me.  I appreciate a beautiful body male or female and just because he's on a diet doesn't mean he can't look at the menu.

".....I tell you that whosoever looks at a womwn as to have lust for her has committed adultery with her in his heart". That was Jesus Christ speaking. So if 'gawking at' in any way means the kind of look Jesus was talking about, then it is terrible for any man to dare gawk at another woman when with his woman. I too would kick some sanity into him! Thank you Jesus for capturing my man and holding him firm so that he would not disgrace us(you and I) as it is natural for men todo so.

If I catch him doing it, I mention it or say, "Do you want me get her number?" He stares more when he's tired. Otherwise he just glances. Half the time he doesn't seem to notice he is doing it.

When a guy is walking with his girl and gawks at me, I have been known to turn and say, "What are you looking at, you are with your girl, UHG?!"

Now I just give them a 'what are you looking at' look or ignore them completely.

My husband has gawked a few times but I do know who he comes home with!!!!  Cheri

Luckily I don't have this problem.  We both glance at other people and I will often be the first one to admit another woman is attractive.  A lot of times the women I think are attractive my husband will say are not. 

I have seen younger men do this a lot. Guys in their 20s and early 30s. A lot of them still don't realize many extremely attractive women are ugly on the inside.Or just really dumb.The older and more experienced they get they grow up and just plain look like, "oh ok she's attractive" - but realize "yeah whatever - she's probably a high maintenance b***h." Again, I have male friends who tell me this. Looking doens't mean they will approach her. It's like when you see a nice piece of fruit in the supermarket or a car in a showroom. Gawking is different from that.

So, this is a great topic! I just spoke with a man who wrote a book called "Every man sees you naked". We are going to interview him, but I had to admit that I had a love/hate response while reading the book. So here is the hard, but real truth...Guys are wired like 15 year old boys...they gawk at anything that is sexy and giggles.  It seems supperficial to women and disrespectful, true...but they are not going to change. You have to have enough security in your relatonship to know that he is going home with YOU. Now, if you are not having a satisfying sexual relationship...it may be a different scene.  You can try to ask him not to be such an enormous lech to the point of being disrespectful to you, but he will still look. Most women look at hot guys too, but we don't get the obvious level of excitement from it. Ask him what makes the woman so hot to him and maybe you can work it out in the bedroom with role playing, or dressing up for each other. Unfortunately, guys always yearn for a secret fantasy, which is why they look. It does not mean that they really want to go there, but if you have not been sexually active for a long time, like three months, maybe he is considering getting it somewhere else. Do not forget , my sisters, that we are strong women and we can't change them, but we can use the situation to our advantage...It goes along with why guys are obsessed by thier penises. They touch it because they can! They are much more simply wired emotionally than women. They look because it is there.Sometimes that is all it is most of the time. I truly wish that there are more spiritual men, and there are a few, but they are a different breed. Guys just want to be fed, compimented for their "prowess"(which is debatable) and to get laid. My partner and I are trying to bridge this enormous gap in priorities and to try to enlighten men that their women do not appreciate that it comes off looking disrespectful and objectifies women. We are also trying to empower women to teach their partners and children to try to think differently, so that maybe this pattern will be changed. If your male partner knows that he has the best woman at his side..he won't stray.But I can't gaurantee that he will ever stop looking at other women.  Maybe he can tone down the GAWK factor to not piss you off so much! If you haven't seen the movie "The Women"..do! Eva Mendes tells the wife of the man that he is having an affair with very clearly about how men have this fantasy about thir women always being ultrasexy, which is why he is drawn to her. In an age where we want to be professional and successful, you can't be sexy at the same time. But, behind closed doors...it is up to you!  Prove that your relationship is rock solid and hot..he won't stray! And don't be afraid to let him know how to please you!!! If he pleases you, then his prowess gets inflated and he gets turned on. Sorry for a hard dose of reality..sucky, but true. Stay strong!!!

Verdaria says ...

I have seen younger men do this a lot. Guys in their 20s and early 30s. A lot of them still don't realize many extremely attractive women are ugly on the inside.Or just really dumb.The older and more experienced they get they grow up and just plain look like, "oh ok she's attractive" - but realize "yeah whatever - she's probably a high maintenance b***h." Again, I have male friends who tell me this. Looking doens't mean they will approach her. It's like when you see a nice piece of fruit in the supermarket or a car in a showroom. Gawking is different from that.

I disagree.  Most of the men that gawk at me are at least in their 40's