Excelle

I'd be a little worried that a coworker would see. But then again...they're on there themselves... I think I'd be willing to give it a try. Does anyone have any specific recommendations for sites?

 I've heard some sites do not accept any other searches/relationships other than heterosexual ones. What's up with that? Has anyone run up against this?

I was reluctant to date online at first but then I realized it was the perfect, nonconfrontational way to get to know someone.  If you meet someone through friends or at an event, you might feel awkward or uncomfortable because there seems to be expectations in that scenario.  But by reading an online profile you can already tell if you want to learn more about someone or not.  Then by exchanging a couple of emails you can find out if the two of you have enough common interests to keep a conversation going.  If so, then you can meet in person at a public place with the understanding that your still just getting to know each other and see if there is chemistry or not.  This way you already know some information about each other and it is easier to make small talk.  I personally found the love of my life in an online dating service (who, as fate would have it, only lived three blocks away from me but we had never met).  Co-workers will think whatever they want to about you, as long as you have a respectable profile with nice, decent photos, than it is really just another way of presenting yourself to others. 

Nay on this one. The reasons would be all above. You can get a good sense of how one is by chatting with them on line. However you also have to see how they are in person. Then if they live out of state it is expensive.

I have started online dating because it paves a way for me to share my feelings with my mate.

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sathyan

I as afraid of it or a long time.  But I did try it.  I'm 33, 3 kids, and I do not have a lifestyle in which I meet SINGLE men.  so I tried it.  I met 4 gus and while none took off, I'm still good friends with 3. I met couple that I chatted w online that were weirds, but heck that was entertaining in itself.  It was Ok for me.  I have 3 good friends out of the deal.  !

I ended up getting back with my sweetheart, that's why I stopped.

I've been giving thought to online dating, mainly because there are do few people around my age in my area. I'm in my early 20s, but most people here are either in their 30s/40s with kids or still in high school.

Then again, I wonder what I'd talk about to someone, since I'm unemployed. I doubt they'd really care about the shows I watch while applying to jobs online or the latest antics of the adorable dog I care for.

While I was in college a friend turned me on to this cool chat site.  In between classes I would go to the librray chat.  I met alot of interesting people of the course of the few years I was in school.  There was one guy inparticuar.  After months and months of chatting we exchanged email addresses and began chatting off the site as well.  We talked about all sorts of things, and found we had a lot in common.  We even had mutual friend online. We exchanged photos and phones numbers.  We became good friends. I got to know his roommates and family and he got to know mine a well. My mom and dad really liked him.  Him and my dad would email back and forth without me.  After about a year on spring break I flew cross the country to go meet him in person.  It was a GREAT time, I will never forget it.  After I came back we keept in touch and continued our relationship.  We would have gotten married if I didnt mess it up and start dating someone eles that lived in own area.  I dont regret any of it. It was a great experience and I am glad I with my current BF! 

My dad met his current wife on-line, and they have been married now almost 3 years!  I say trust your gut instincts, be patient and be thoro with your quetions and research about the other person. You can find out alot abou people through the internet!  Its hard to find your soulmate if you only look in one spot.

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 I think there has been some stuff in the news about eHarmony being anti-gay, but presumably, after the negative press, they fixed that.

That has happened on some sites (especially eHarmony, but I don't know if they fixed it) My main problem is you have to set it to ONLY look for a man OR a woman, so you can't be bi on those sites.