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This type of stuff happens everyday to everyday folks, not just celebrities. We need to be outraged about any type of domestic violence. I could care less that he's Chris Brown or that she's Rhianna.  It's domestic violence, and there needs to be something done about it. Yeah, they stop playing his music and running his ads, but is that going to help him in the long run. Is that going to help him deal with the issues he obviously has? Is that going to help him channel his anger in a better matter? No...he'll miss out on a few dollars and lay low for a while. If he doesn't get the necessary help, then it'll happen again...and if his stepfather abused his mother, it's a learned behavior. He needs counseling.

I've been reading comments on other sites about this situation and the things I've read are disturbing. Some people are saying that maybe she deserved it!!! What type of foolishness is that? And the sad part is that these comments are coming from girls who "love Chris Brown so much." I was a fan too (until the tattoos) but hitting a woman is unacceptable. No matter the situation a man should learn to control his anger and walk away.

The FIRST time a man ever put his hands on me in a violent fashion.  I would be GONE in the next second. NO and I mean NO WOMAN or man deserves dosmetic violence.  This is a learned behavior in his siyuation and he needs some SERIOUS counseling!!!

bethanierose says ...

I dismiss outright anyone who could say that maybe Rhianna deserved it.  No one deserves to be beaten, ever.  Unfortunately for Rhianna, her traumatic experience with Chris Brown is being disected by the general public just because of who they are.  But on the other side of the coin, this incident may briefly serve to raise awareness about a very serious and far too common problem: domestic violence.  We should be angry, but lets use that anger to make a positive difference. 

As women, it is important that we not make snap judgements or declarations about what we would or wouldn't do ourselves.  It's very easy to say "I would NEVER...!"  Speaking from personal experience, it's easier than you might think to wake up one day suddenly saying "How did I EVER...?"  I don't really know what happened to cause this situation and it's none of my business.  I don't feel one bit sorry for Chris Brown.  His career is over faster than you can say R. Kelley.  But my heart goes out to Rhianna.  I wish her a future filled with healthy relationships and positive self esteem.    

Well said.

I agree that no woman deserves to be treated this way.  I also agrre that I like Chris Brown & I was proud of his career & how things were going for him & also for Rhianna.  They are so young, both of them.  I think that it is sad that his career has to be over & I only hope that he will not be cast aside like so many other young men who have made these mistakes.  At this point someone needs to step up, step in & help.  The Stepfather & mother or whoever were in cahrge up until this point should have stepped in long ago.  the two of them, not just Chris Brown but Rhianna as well need counseling.  so many of our young guys & girls are falling into thes traps of violent relationships. I can't say where they get it from.  Some say he got this from his stepfather, others say they pick it up from wrappers & vidoes, still others say the get it form video games or music.  These two are perfect examples of the lives so many of our teenage boys & girls are living today.  He's a kid not a man, he may be 20 but no one has taught him, it's obvious about real LOVE & what it means to have a girlfriend & I honestly can say the same for her because several reports say that this is not the first time they've fought. Some say she's very jealous & loves to fight.  It's been said that they fight often.  So I guess I'm saying that I think they both need help & hopefully this can be a lesson learned for all of our young men & women of all races.  This is becoming a trend & it needs to stop on all sides.  The guys as well as the young ladies.  Violence solves nothing.  And whenlyou bring outside forces into your relationships it only makes matters worse.  I would not be surprised if 3 months from now they are arm & arm one again.  When do we step up to the plate & teach our young men & women how to love & how to treat one another?

If I'm not mistaken, she's about 20 years old; where are her parents.  They are considered adults, but young women need guidance, especially when they are trying to handle a high profile life like hers.  Abuse is horrible in any form.  I agree with Antoinette, we should be outraged by all the forms of abuse that goes on all the tim.

~Angie

christyb62 says ...

The FIRST time a man ever put his hands on me in a violent fashion.  I would be GONE in the next second. NO and I mean NO WOMAN or man deserves dosmetic violence.  This is a learned behavior in his siyuation and he needs some SERIOUS counseling!!!

I totally agree.  They BOTH need counseling.  He needs to get help to figure out how to break the cycle (he might have witnessed or been a victim of abuse when he was younger and thought that was normal) and learn how not to be abusive.  She needs help so she can learn how to be empowered.  They also need to learn how to feel and  think more positively about themselves.  Some abusive partners abuse because they feel worthless about thenselves and believe that the only way to feel worthy is to hurt the ones they love.  I pray they both get the help they need. 

I, too, have read different points and different versions of the story on different sites. According to one, this wasn't the first time Chris Brown hit Rihanna. If that's the case, then a lot of anger is misdirected. I'm not saying what he did was okay or he should be pardoned. Personally, I think he should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. In any case, if this was indeed the 'norm' for them, then Rihanna is just as much to blame as he is. SHE decided to stay in the relationship and tolerate his behavior. I was in an emotionally and verbally abusive relationship, so I know some of the excuses you can make up to tell not only others, but yourself, too. But there comes a moment when the light bulb comes on and you seriously gotta face yourself and realize that things have gone too far. Hopefully this is hers and she decides not to put up with that kind of mess anymore.

How do you guys feel about Chris Brown's apology? Do you accept his apology or do you feel that this was a weak attempt at self-promotion to boost album sales?

Here's a recap, in case you missed it:

First of all I am glad that Rhianna got herself out of this situation with Chris Brown.  I can't help thinking of the many women who do not have the means to get out of these situations.  I keep thinking of a young mom with a couple little ones and has no money or family support to help her out.

Those are the women who really needs more help not only for the safety but fianances, home.