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Happily married but want another man
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Posted 8 months ago Are you happily married but always fantasize about another man? You know that your husband is a good man and you want to be with him for the rest of your life. However, how do you deal with an attraction to another man? For instance, you think the Fedex guy is really cute and you know he is attracted to you. He knows you are married but what if both of you want and can do something more? Do you actually do it or do you stop yourself? How do you stop yourself? |
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| Posted 8 months ago It's perfectly healthy and normal to fantasize about other people. My husband always tells me it would be totally okay with him if I dated another woman, of course I won't, cause cheating is cheating to me whether it's a man or woman. But you have to think about the consequences if you do decide to fullfill those fantasies.If you feel like you really need or want to do something like, maybe you should talk to your husband first. I know that sounds wierd, but I have know couples that swing. Swinging is what your talking about?RIGHT! Now I don't swing...just because I am an extremely jealous indiviual. I'll give you the shirt off my back, the money in my pockets...but don't touch my man. But that's me. some couples have the ability to be together and be with other people and be okay. I would just really, really think about how strong your marriage before you do something like. Really know that acting on impulse could destroy everything. But if the urge gets that strong I would talk to your husband first, he might be okay with it. |
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| Posted 8 months ago What a touchy subject! I am not married but am in a serious relationship with the most amazing man I have had to pleasure of knowing. I can honestly say that I have not had the urge to be with another man since him but I do have a desire to fulfill a fantasy with another woman. I wll NOT do it though. Like the previous poster mentioned...cheating is cheating. I treasure too much what we have and would not jeopardize it for anything. We have spoken about it and his response to me was that if I ever felt like I needed to do it to please let him go first because of how detremental it would be to him (regardless of my "need" being man or woman). I would assess my (your) relationship to determine if you're willing to lose it for a fling. I have a friend that fantasizes being with another man all the time and the way she puts it to rest is to think of him while she's making love to her husband. I know it sounds kinda cruel but it allows you to have the best of both worlds without ruining anyone else's world. Just curious (to the original poster)... are you going thru this or a similar scenario or where you just curious to know what other women here think about this subject (question)? |
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| Posted 7 months ago To look upon another is lust of the heart and a sin. As soon as you start fantasizing about another person when you are married or in a committed relationship you need to either have the self control to get over your crush or separate yourself from that person completely. I have been in the situation once. I was attracted to a co-worker of mine who was also attracted to me and did not care that I was in a relationship and tried even harder to pursue me. I quit my job. It was a drastic move but it was the right one as I love my significant other more than words can say and will do anything to keep myself away from the temptations of cheating. |
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| Posted 2 months ago Absolutely ok to fantasize and attract to another man that's not your husband. If you KNOW you will get away with it then HAVE FUN. Don't do a lousy and clumsy job. No string attach please |
