Excelle

Okay so my problem with guys is when I first meet someone I'm fine and myself and all that and then if I start having feelings for a guy I totally change who I am and become shy.  I used to be very shy when I was younger and had very low self-esteem when it came to guys.  Guys did like me in high school but they were so opposite of me.  The one's who liked me were popular/preppy and I wasn't.  I had my group of friends I hung out with and that was it.  When someone liked me I would think it was a cruel joke and it wasn't until later  that I found out they liked me.  Haha my luck right?  So what's some advice from any guys here on how I can stay my plain regular me and not go all shy?  It even happened when I even once had feelings for a guy friend who I'd known since junior high.

To shy girl

look in the mirror and say I am some one special and any man that try to talk to me PICK THE RIGHT PERSON because i love me i am special .I AM SMART ,Iam pretty,I am cute ,I am sexy,I am  intelligent and their 's not  a man out there that can take my power away from me.And the next time a man come up to you and try to talk to you look him in his eyes and feel your beauty with in and say hi ,feel the beauty feel it.don't be scared or feel shy ,act as if you are the most cutes person on earth.

I was also very shy in high school and college. I was ugly, poor and unpopular.  I am still shy about some things.  One way to get over it is focus on something you know you can do that makes you happy.  And realize that everyone has flaws and sometimes shyness can be a good thing.  I had to focus on my shyness and realize what makes me cringe.. sounds crazy but it helps.