Excelle

This week I'm traveling with my boyfriend and his family for his grandparent's 50th wedding anniversary party. Unfortunately I do not have a great relationship with his family and I'm dreading the week we will all be spending together. How am I supposed to stay composed, and ignore his mother's rude comments for an entire week? And does anyone have any similar experiences or stories? I'd love to hear any advice!

Unfortunately, it seems as though many women have difficulty with their husband/boyfriend's family. Why is it they are always rude and indifferent to us and they get away with it! Before the trip I would plan a nice dinner for just the 2 of you. Make his favorite dish if you cook and create a romantic setting. Let him know how much he means to you and you want to have fun with him on this trip. Tell him that his family makes you feel uncomfortable and you are hoping he will try to buffer his mother's comments. Remember, when she acts this way it is she who looks bad not you. Try to ignore her. If you are somewhere where you can walk away do it! I was married for 18 years with 3 incredibly beautiful and smart kids and my Mother-in-Law was so mean to me. I constantly tried to win her approval. One day, after 10 years of putting up with her rudeness I finally stood up to her. It is difficult to do if your spouse doesn't stand up for you. I confronted her and she bitched(excuse the language!) that my children had to have the best when it came to clothing. I lost it! I worked very hard night and weekends, the home was immaculate and her son got coffee in bed every morning, lunch made to take to work, and a clean happy home with a home cooked meal every night. My sister bought designer clothes for her daughter which she passed on to me for my girls and many a night I stayed up and sewed. I told her I was sick of her rudeness and I felt my entire body boil. I was taught you should never disrespect your elders but I had had it! My sister-in-laws all had money didn't work, wore designer clothes, got their hair. nails and toes done and their kids were always a mess. I wore jeans that were 10 years old. So, I mentioned these things walked out and left. I didn't speak to her for a month. One day my then husband said his Mom and Dad were coming over. I packed up the kids and I left. It took a while but eventually she apoligized and I got the respect I deserved. But I lost respect for my husband because he didn't stand up to her in my behalf in the beginning of our relationship. Let your boyfriend know that you understand it is difficult for him and you know he would like everyone to get along but rude comments are unacceptable. You don't want to be with a man who doesn't have enough spine to stand up for you!