Excelle

It's not okay for an mate to flirt in front of you because that shows an lack of respect.I was with one of my friends and her mate was flirting with other infront of her she smile like it was okay but deep down in side i could tell she did not like  it . I felt bad for her watching him flirt like that.

I must agree with popeteresa, it is NOT okay for your mate to flirt in fron of you.  It is very disrespectful and could "stir up" some issues or conflicts that could lead to violence amongst other things. 

Definately not.  To me it would seem disrespectful and would  p... me off completely.   This is totally different from  a straightforward statement complimenting another womans' appearance.

No - this would show that he/she has no respect for their mate.  I'm sure that they wouldn't like it if they were the one who was witnessing it!

there is no way it is ever ok with a mate to flirt in front of you. that shows a lack of respect and that not all their feelings ar for you. and shows you how much easier it is for them to wonder off to another

My first instinct was the consensus: disrepect in the highest degree.  In our vows, are we not announcing to all that we have found someone to "LOVE, HONOR and RESPECT"?  And in dating, are we not LOOKING for someone who will qualify for these things?  If someone feels the need to look at someone else while with you, that should be an immediate red flag, and you should not lose a moment's sleep after telling them "so long and good luck; you're gonna' need it"!

Not if he wants to keep his cojones,he won't.

I am of an old scholl mentality.When you are in a dedicated relationship you should show your partner respect.Which is at no point in front of me or not in front of me will you flirt with someone.And I will do the same.

Period.

If he/she feels it necessary to flirt then there is something wrong with that.I or you should be enough for your partner,not to want attention from someone else.

But hell that is just me.

No, it is not okay for a mate to flirt in front of you, but some people don't even realize they are flirting....I ex used to flirt all the time and he would open the door for another woman but never opened a door for me....When confronted about his actions, he denied that he was flirting or that he ignored me.  I  have a brother who is very friendly with women, he means no harm, but some of the women are flirtatious with him...but he does not realize they are flirting with him and he denies that it is happening.  I always watch at a distance whenever he and his wife are in a crowd of people to see if she is going to get jealous or turn around to look if he speaks with other women, and it never fails that she becomes insecure, but I understand because I have been in her shoes.  My sister's husband is very flirtatious and when they first got married  he had a bad habit of patting a woman's but, now she goes out of the way to keep any woman away from him....Flirting is a no-no when you are in a relationship.....

Everybody flirts occasionally, even married people. When a man finds a woman  attractive and there is some chemistry there, a woman might be really nice, smile, twinkle, and wiggle her hips as she leaves the encounter. When a girl finds that guy attractive for some reason, the man might respond back, it is physical human nature. He may smile, be helpful, and make the woman laugh. This is normal. But it is NEVER ok to do infront of your mate!

In front of your mate is disrespectful and will lead to discord and insecurities. Especially whent he spark from that relationship has dwindled and fizzed out. 

Maybe this is the reaction flirting mates want to stir up. I think the best thing to do is share how it makes you feel. If the overt flirting continues then the mate is not caring about your feelings or has a motive behind it.

Interesting topic....

I have to disagree with the "men do that always" theory.

I think it's like with any other behavior, if you try to overlook it, he will keep it up and it'll be much worse after the "honeymoon" phase. In my opinion, he's either "just not that into you" in the first place and he is still immature and playing around with you and the other ladies OR it's a behavior that he's got a habit of and needs be told what's up instead of women trying to overlook it and waiting till much later to say something about it.

 Its not even about love.  Its about respect.  You know you are somewhere with another person, why would you openly flirt with another? Very disrespectful.