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Poll: Spanking- Is it ok or is it abuse ?
Poll: Is Spanking your child ok ?
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Posted about 1 month ago So as I was reading some articles today I was thinking. . . . .What are your thoughts on spanking? Is it ok ? It is abuse ? Do you believe it teaches children to be physically violent ? Or do youthink sometimes that's just what they need ! I was spanked as a kid and I turned out ok, or so my dad says : ) I would like to hear your thoughts on this. I have a total of 11 nieces and 1 nephew. When any of them come to visit I don't put the crystal away or hide the knick-knacks because they might break them. They are told not to touch them or becareful, but if they touch them specifically the younger one's (1.5 -3 yrs) they get there hand lightly smacked and told no. So I gues this is a form of "spanking". I really can't use the "time out" idea on a 1.5 yr old however, what do you do ? Do you think spanking has adverse effects on children while growing up ? Can't wait to see your responses ?
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| Posted 27 days ago I was spanked as well as a child and feel I have grown up just fine. I know children that have never been spanked and they run amuc at home and in public. I say that with society the way it is today that now is the perfect time to spank kids. Times outs, grounding and a " good talking too " sometimes are just not enough. Kids need to know that the parents are in charge and we mean business. |
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| Posted 26 days ago I am not a parent but have been around children long enough and have nieces and nephews... I honestly think that spanking is needed on occassion but should not become habit. Talking helps them understand what they did wrong while spanking cause pain that can become tolerable where more force is then being used... Abuse. I believe that a children need explanation as to why something is wrong because sometimes they do not know (eventhough we may think its common sense). Some adults accept some things whil others dont,. They will test you and definitely know who and what they can get away with. Reserving respect is essential. |
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| Posted 26 days ago I don't think negative reinforcement works. I sort of think most spanking comes from a place of anger at not being able to control the situation with a child, and that's not such a good thing. The whole "I was spanked, and look how I turned out!" feels a little odd: lots of things used to be done that were negative that aren't done any more for a reason. But to each their own! |
