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Marrying the wrong person - biggest fear for successful bachelors!
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Posted almost 4 years ago Eligiable men reveal true reasons for holding the reins of bachelorhood tightly when it comes to marriage in recent Reuters survey (article link is in Excelle news-article section). Fear of a bad marriage is a major concern - more so than getting married at all. The study indicated that the fear is based on the fact that they are part of a generation that has grown up with bad divorces. Do you think its the same for single women who have grown up with divorce? Crystal A. Hernandez, M.S., MFT
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| Posted almost 4 years ago I am not married as yet....and I do admit...that I fear bad marriages....the rate of divorces has surely gone up ....I have'nt grown up with divorces happening around me..but now they have become so alarmingly high...and they do have a painful effect on the entire family...i keep hearing about marriages breaking up in 2-6 months time due to compatability issues..ending up with wrong people...and it does scare me.....I would'nt want to be part of a loveless marriage... I would like to look at marriage as a positive change in my life..not as something that has potential to cause me pain. Re-enlightenment is in the realization of the fact that we have only the present moment to live. |
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| Posted almost 4 years ago Rasika, when I read the article about the study I thought to myself the men in the study enjoy a comfortable lifestyle and have attained much of what they desire (good friends, career, and opportunities to explore life to the degree that they desire) and are intelligent. How then does fear of a bad marriage hold those who see marriage as a part of their future hostage? Given, the impact of growing up with difficult divorce experience is real, there is a part of it that remains emotional. What's preventing them from handling fear of the unknown regarding marriage as they would the fear of the unknown regarding a project on the job? I can't imagine a successful man shrinking back from a career opportunity because of fear of failure--he certainly would not have achieved all that he has in his career if he did. Such a man would do his homework and find out what he's dealing with and come up with a plan of action for managing. He would get the information and experience, if necessary, to know what it takes to succeed with the project. So, why not approach marriage in a similar fashion? Why not find out what it takes to build a enduring, and loving marriage? Crystal A. Hernandez, M.S., MFT
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