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A growing relationship trend is that of having a soul-mate. What's your take on this trend? Is your man a soul mate? How do you define soul-mate?

I was sitting in my chair looking out the window. A man got out of a car and walked toward the door. I thought: "MINE!". I shook it off. Stupid.

He walked in the door and my heart skipped, as he passed by me with no acknowledgement I thought: "That man will be very important to me, he will be my life".

We were married three years to the day later. I can't help but think he is my soul-mate.

I have been having this discussion about "soul mates" with a dear friend of mine. My belief has always been there is a "soul mate" for everone, one person that is perfect in everyway. God gives us the opportunity to meet this person in our life, but we are the ones responsible to realizing who it is.

Although, after speaking on this issue with my friend, I am beginning to believe a soul can have many mates, not just one of love. But a souls mate can be a friend or family member as well, someone who understands you, challenges you, shares your passions. I am leaning more towards this belief, because in this life it is a rare jewel when we meet those people.

Carissa Ahlstrom

CarissaAhlstrom says ...

I have been having this discussion about "soul mates" with a dear friend of mine. My belief has always been there is a "soul mate" for everone, one person that is perfect in everyway. God gives us the opportunity to meet this person in our life, but we are the ones responsible to realizing who it is.

Although, after speaking on this issue with my friend, I am beginning to believe a soul can have many mates, not just one of love. But a souls mate can be a friend or family member as well, someone who understands you, challenges you, shares your passions. I am leaning more towards this belief, because in this life it is a rare jewel when we meet those people.

Carissa Ahlstrom

I think a person can have many "soul mates".  To me it is another person who just gets you and has a connection with you that others just don't have.  It doesn't have to be sexual.  I consider my brother who died 3 years ago a soul mate.  We have a connection to each other and I'm positive our souls will share other lives together, I do not have the same connection with my other two brothers.  I also believe twins are soul mates and I think some times it is someone who we feel attraction to as well.  It is a knowledge of someone that bends the rules of society in that we may never have spoken before but I get you and I know you deeper than physical acquaintance and camaraderie/companionship/friendship.

Soul mate to me, is an almost indescibable spiritual, cosmic inevitable connection...

As young as I am, I believe I have found my soulmate. Or should I say he found me. Our story is funny, but basically he found me and together we are awesome! Of course, there is that whole thing where I can look in his eyes for comfort and that I think about him at all times of the day. However, the thing I love about us is how we help each other out. He is always telling "whats up" and always being real with me. No matter how much it might hurt, we let each other know the bizness. lols. At my lowest, he's right there every step of the way and I do the exact same for him.

I have my bestiie // main goon // partner in crime // clubbin buddy // sister from another mister... I have to believe she is my soulmate. So, of course there are more than one soulmates. I have two!! My bestiie and my hunny. I couldn't ask for anything more :)

I don't really believe in a soul-mate... Have had a total of 4 guys in my life starting from the first one and I am married to one of them but I have no clue of what is that... does soul-mate really exist or is it something somebody came up to describe a 'good feeling'? or is it a 'need' we have or we 'want'..  

I have always had a tough time truly understanding what the tern "soul mate" meant. Past tense.  I'm sure I know now because I have met mine and the way we found each other is SO incredible a story.  I believe that my fiance' is my soul mate because the feelings I get are out of this world.  When he rubs my face or my arm or where ever, it's almost as if he is touching something inside of me. When he looks at me it's like he's looking into me.  When he kisses me I get dizzy.  We finish each other's thoughts.  I am so proud to say that I know I have met my match and soul mate! 

Nett says ...

I was sitting in my chair looking out the window. A man got out of a car and walked toward the door. I thought: "MINE!". I shook it off. Stupid.

He walked in the door and my heart skipped, as he passed by me with no acknowledgement I thought: "That man will be very important to me, he will be my life".

We were married three years to the day later. I can't help but think he is my soul-mate.

Nett, I love how you write! Your opening description was so funny, thanks for sharing...

I view soul mates as two people who share a quiet understanding that they belong together. Like pieces of a puzzle, they were meant to be connected. They may not even realize it at first, but as time passes, the things they go through together have a way of revealing and confirming this fact. And I do agree with those who commented that a soul mate does not necessarily have to be a spouse. It can be a close friend. 

Or a Pinky and the Bria or a Zim and Gur one trying to take over the world with their superior knowledge and the other one is there for this shits and giggles and dash of curiosity....

Nett says ...

ChrisMar says ...

Nett, I love how you write! Your opening description was so funny, thanks for sharing...

 

Aww shucks Crystal...I do try and  I am very trying at times, so I guess it evens out in the wash. :)

I've said it before and I'll say it again, you are in a word priceless, Nett!

Yeah he is no matter how much I don't want it.  We are two peas in a pod as they say. I love him dearly and can't imagine my life without him no matter how pissed off he makes me.  I think in the end we'll end up as really good friends but no matter what happens he'll be around and so will I. 

"If you want to attract a life partner as your soul mate, there are several illusions you will need to relinquish. One is that your soul mate is someone you will be with for the rest of your life. You can have a soul mate relationship that lasts a few weeks, months, or years. Time has nothing to do with the quality of your connection and its importance in your life."

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elegaspi says ...

I don't think it's reasonable to expect every person to have one "soul mate." It simply doesn't work out that way. Things can happen in life that show you that a person will not be with you forever. While the idea is nice, I am not going to keep my hopes up that I will be with the same person for the rest of my life. I'd like to, but that's unrealistic at this point. I mean, you could find the perfect person, and get married, and have a nice life together; then, that perfect person might die (or you might die). You have to move on; you can't assume that you only had the one soul mate and that was it; this is the end of your line when it comes to relationships.

Don't get me wrong, many people do that; when their spouse dies, they do not find another to marry. I'm not saying that there are always going to be multiple compatible partners. I think it mostly depends on you and where you are in life. You have to know what to expect and what to want from others. If you just don't have the personality to share a life, then you won't find that perfect person. If you dwell too much on a past relationship that ended for whatever reason, then you can never move on and keep living your life!

I so agree with this. I've had many true loves in my life and am on my 2nd marriage.   I believe this one compliments me in ways that the others have not but there are also some idiosyncracies that I could do with out.  And vice versa.  My only true soul-mate in my opinion is God.